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Doofus
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Life on hold

Been on medication for depression for many years and usually life is good, but for the past few years I have been carer for my elderly father till he moved into residential care recently. While I no longer care for him 24/7, I still manage his affairs and will do so till he passes. I feel like my life is on hold - I live in the country where there is little work so chances of finding a job are slim to unpossible, I relocated from the tropics to become his carer and dont do well over the winter months. I never felt the need for a partner or to reproduce, so there is just me ( and 3 animals) and I have been content with that - I think our planet is overpopulated anyway and cannot sustain its current population. I guess I just don't find joy in anything anymore. How can I rekindle my happiness with life? I know exercise is important, but find it hard to do that even.

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Re: Life on hold

Hello @Doofus I must agree with you I am not a fan of the winter months either, I recently finsihed some work in the tropics and yes it is a rude shock coming back to a cooler climate.  It sounds like what you are going through takes up all your energy and honestly while we love our parents unconditionally there's nothing in the offspring rule book to say we have be their keeper either, but we do exactly that because we love them so much. Much like yourself I cared for my father in his last weeks / days of his life and it becomes overwhelming, consuming and if your not already saddened by the situation, the daily process of this spiral will hit you like a tonne of bricks the longer it goes on.  Have you considered joining a walking group in your local area? You mentioned you have animals, perhaps you could find a group that includes them and you will also be exercising the pets, yourself and meeting new peiple along the way. You also mention the employment situation looks grim where you are; have you thought about volunteer work such as working for non profit organisations like Saint Vincents, Lifeline, Endeaveour Foundation Socialisation is important, take it from one that knows how difficult it can be to get your mojo back, but once you start you'll slowly begin to feel better.  Remember this is temporary as we all know nothing lasts forever and think of it as being between lives, just for now until you find your way again.  Take care Smiley Happy

Re: Life on hold

Thanks Alwaysonmymind. Food for thought there - I know I should interact more with local community - maybe you have given me the push I need.

Re: Life on hold

Hi @Doofus

Warm welcome to the forums 🙂

Great ideas @Alwaysonmymind

I was also thinking @Doofus about jobs that you can get where you work from home via phone or computer, would that be an option?

And wondering if you were not a carer/managing his affairs what would you choose to do with your life? What did you picture for yourself or would be valuable to you? And can you do anything toward setting yourself up to be in that position in the future? I.e a short/long course or start a project of some kind etc

what do others think? 

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