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OS20
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Ex Partner and psychosis

Hey everyone. 

 

My partner of 6 years suffered a drug induced psychosis in March 2020 while I was 3 months pregnant. Looking in we had the '' perfect' relationship we brought a house, a puppy and were soon to be parents. In 2019 things changed between us regarding trust, my partner started accusing me of infidelity and being an escort. All the accusations were not true and we some how worked through the issues. Cut to March 2020 when we became physically and mentally abusive. Once hospitalised he seemed to be doing better and started taking medication and seeing a psychologist. His mood was very much up and down. At random times he would still accuse me of things that are not true and even with evidence he still didn't believe I was telling him the truth. When I gave birth to my daughter his MH again went downhill and he was saying really hurtful things and engaging in reckless behaviour. 

 

I have actually left him and we have been separated for 5 months - I still worry about him he is still delusional and paranoid. I just wanted to know if anyone has had similar experiences and has any advice on how to support him. 

 

Thanks in advance. 

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Re: Ex Partner and psychosis

Hi @OS20 

 

im so sorry for what you're going through right now. I have been through the same sort of experience recently. First it was drug induced in 2018 i wasnt pregnant yet. And he had his first proper episode of psychosis in june 2020 without any drugs involved, just lack of sleep.

Our baby was 6 months old at that time and i found out i was pregnant again.
I have left his home already but i still worry as well. 
props to you for leaving so early on and you have put you and your baby at a safer environment just by detaching. You are stronger than you think!!


it can be really hard seeing our loved ones crumble into the person that they are now. I always used to make excuses for getting back together with him or sacrificing my own sanity to make sure he gets better again.
But it is like a double edged sword and sadly, because we are the ones closest to them, we always are the center of their paranoia. 

it really helps if you would speak to a professional or a counsellor to just be a sounding board. Theres always this forum, theres also a directory on the head to health website. And maybe try mental health carers foundation australia theyve got advocates you can talk to over the phone for carers and family. ive also joined a program on wellways.org.au for carers. Because whether we like it or not, we're gonna be involved in each others lives because of coparenting. 😞


 Do you know if he is religiously taking his meds? Its easier said than done but get back into your old self, coz caring for someone like this takes a toll on our sense of self and we lose a lot of it without even noticing. I feel for you, i hope you get some clarity & comfort soon. Your baby needs at least one mentally well parent. So we have no choice but to be strong, its the only option. Keep your chin up!

Re: Ex Partner and psychosis

Hi @OS20 

 

im so sorry for what you're going through right now. I have been through the same sort of experience recently. First it was drug induced in 2018 i wasnt pregnant yet. And he had his first proper episode of psychosis in june 2020 without any drugs involved, just lack of sleep.

Our baby was 6 months old at that time and i found out i was pregnant again.
I have left his home already but i still worry as well. 
props to you for leaving so early on and you have put you and your baby at a safer environment just by detaching. You are stronger than you think!!


it can be really hard seeing our loved ones crumble into the person that they are now. I always used to make excuses for getting back together with him or sacrificing my own sanity to make sure he gets better again.
But it is like a double edged sword and sadly, because we are the ones closest to them, we always are the center of their paranoia. 

it really helps if you would speak to a professional or a counsellor to just be a sounding board. Theres always this forum, theres also a directory on the head to health website. And maybe try mental health carers foundation australia theyve got advocates you can talk to over the phone for carers and family. ive also joined a program on wellways for carers. Because whether we like it or not, we're gonna be involved in each others lives because of coparenting. 😞


 Do you know if he is religiously taking his meds? Its easier said than done but get back into your old self, coz caring for someone like this takes a toll on our sense of self and we lose a lot of it without even noticing. I feel for you, i hope you get some clarity & comfort soon. Your baby needs at least one mentally well parent. So we have no choice but to be strong, its the only option. Keep your chin up!

Re: Ex Partner and psychosis

Thank you so much for the response! 

 

I'm lucky to have amazing family/friend support and I have linked in with an amazing psychologist. I think the strength comes from my baby girl - I want her to have a happy and healthy life. 

 

One of the hardest things walking away from someone but sometimes you have no choice. 

 

Take care and all the best wishes to you also 

Re: Ex Partner and psychosis

Hey there I hope your doing ok.  Do not feel bad it happens.  If yourve feeling strong enough and you sound like you are, maybe a call to your ex to see how he is doing?  If things are good for him and I hope they are, it may be a good time for you both to heal by just listening to each other and being kind to each other.  Kindness and empathy go along way in the healing.

My heart, shoulder and my ear is here

Take care from Time

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