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30-07-2020 10:05 PM
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31-07-2020 07:57 PM
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I'm so glad to hear things are stable. You are doing an awesome job juggling your mum, your daughter and a full time job! You really need to be commended on your dedication. Being a carer for someone with BPD, in itself, is a big demand.
What an amazing idea! - giving your daughter the BPD for dummies book so she can highlight what may work. I'm so glad she is agreeing to it.
It's a great start. Take each day as it comes. If things tip, it's not because you are doing something wrong.
You're efforts are sensational!
Good on you Mum @Nells !
Looking forward to hearing how you are travelling.
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11-08-2020 09:55 PM
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12-08-2020 11:05 AM
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So good to hear from you mum @Nells !
She's so lucky to have you supporting her. Yes, smothering definitely does not help. Our bodies are very resilient and adaptable things. Not sleeping properly for a while is challenging but I guess here, it has sorted itself out. And you are right in saying she needs to get out for some exercise. Sometimes when we are upset, It is difficult to make ourselves get out. However the benefits of getting out are phenomenal. I make myself get out for a walk every day even if it's just around the block. It definitely helps with sleep. I hope she can see the benefits and perhaps find the will to go out.
All the best.
Keep us updated.
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26-08-2020 07:11 PM
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26-08-2020 08:18 PM
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Hi Mum @Nells !
Great to hear from you. I'm glad MissBPD has been doing better. While the world is in crisis, it sounds like she's in a better place than most.
As for the mental health unit, unless it was for and admission for immediate risk (few days), they are not the most therapeutic for BPD. Mental health units (psychiatric wards) increase the dependency of borderlines. It makes them think they 'need' someone to care for them, give the medicine, remind them went to eat, remind them went to sleep. Borderlines feel safe in this environment however it takes away all the responsibility to manage themselves. Management of BPD must be from within not without (external enforcements like hospitals). This is why it is not recommended that borderlines remain in hospital for more than a few days.
On the other hand, there are special units which run programs daily to support the development of a coping tool box. You can be an outpatient and arrive for the programs each day. There are some borderlines who benefit from an inpatient stay such as those who have comorbidities or require observation during medication changes.
I think it is important to have this discussion with MissBPD. It is not about you not wanting to help her, but you want something more permanent - more than just a band-aid solution. Once again, I emphasise the need for talking therapies - it takes months to retrain her brain, not a hospital stay.
I hope this helps.
I look forward to hearing from you.
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