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[Malen]

Im recovering ok, I seemed to be getting better pretty quickly in the 24 hours after surgery. I slept well overnight and had a nap during the day but a bit broken. Once my 24hour driving exclusion expired I drove into town (15/20min either way), needed some drinks (non-alcoholic). Did a job for Dad, which wasnt as simple as expected. But I think a drive in is as far as I can manage for the time being.

My Dad has done a bang up job keeping an eny on me, helping where needed etc. Hes been doing my chores and stuff around the house, even when he doesnt feel well.

My sister wanted stuff brought down and Dad said he was looking after me and couldnt, that was an issue. Then again she tried but I was asleep. Her and I talked and I said Dad was sick but according to her that was an excuse. I said (while driving in) that I would see how I go but since my drive in and out I have told her that I wont be driving down for a few days. Its 45min either way, I might make it one way but not the other. Shes now carrying on about getting a bag packed and having it sent down via taxi.

I had expected that I would be able to potter and do stuff, like tidy at least but I had to open a thing of milk this morning and that was a bit of a challenge. Anything that needs your core/lower back is less than fun, I did learn abruptly there is a reason they say no bending over. I did, to put some stuff in recycling, without thinking, and wow.

Im finding it really hard, I mean for months I have been on the go from the moment I wake to the moment I go to sleep. I had a couple days break prior to surgery but I still pottered and did my chores. Now I am being forced to stop pretty much altogether. I cant even feed the dogs or put empty bottles away. Im sitting just watching Dad do stuff.

I have both my Mum and Sister texting me winging about one thing or another, just live with what you got for a day or so. I really dont feel up to playing their games. Like the whole 4 months has been an ordeal but the surgery debacle and now having had it Im feeling quite emotional and I dont know how to deal with that.

Im looking forward to being up and around enough to make a difference but not so much that I am having to go from hospital to hospital