30-06-2020 09:00 AM
I have recently gone through a life changing event and since then I can not stop crying.
I seem to be in a viscous circle. I know I should be doing things I used to like doing, going to the gym, going for walks etc
however I started crying during gym classes so I do not want to go any more.
I am doing a walk with tears in my eyes so I feel consouse about going out.
We can start going back into the office next week which I know is the right thing for me but I don't want to, I don't want to get upset in front of my work coleugues
I need to sort myself out but I really don't know how to do it
30-06-2020 10:28 AM
Hi @CMarie and welcome to the sane forums.
I'm sorry to hear that your crying and being upset is affecting your daily life.
Do you have any professional support at all like a psych or a trusted gp or even a friend/family member?
It is a good start however that you have came to the sane forums. Hopefully you will find lots of support here from members.
Life changing events can be hard to get through and sometimes we need that extra help to get through them. It is also a matter of giving yourself time and being kind to yourself.
I hope you find the support here you are looking for.
Just a note, if you want to tag anyone just put a @ in front of their name.
Take care @CMarie and talk soon.
30-06-2020 10:44 AM
Life changing events are hard to move past as @Snowie says - it takes time to adjust - our minds and bodies have to catch up with changed circumstances and often grief is involved - it's hard work
Go easy on yourself and go with the flow - just do what you are able and maybe talk to your GP about it
You can ring Life Line on 13 11 14 to talk with someone there
And welcome to the forum also - we understand
All the best
30-06-2020 12:16 PM
30-06-2020 01:24 PM
Hello @CMarie, Sorry you feel so low, this cold weather is a blow to most people who suffer with depression. It brings upon us winter depressions,that seem to take a long time to shift. I find that sitting out side in a warm spot in the sun sheltered from the wind, in the morning for half an hour ,very beneficial . The light from the sun helps to right our circadium rythm,and the warmth of the sun penatrates our whole body and makes you feel warm and sleepy. Exercise is most helpful for depression ,so please do not give up your gym ,you need it more than you know. Having a pet and a hobby is a big help,so is a good nutritious diet. Cut down on sugar. World conditions bought about by the virus,is a downer,but we just have to learn to live with it. Obey the rules and continue to be vigilant,and you will get through it. Regards jay2
30-06-2020 01:53 PM
Hi again @CMarie
Having a battle like this going on for nearly a year suggests you have had a substantial loss and this could be a relationship or a death or even something like a personal object that brought you comfort or even an idea or you faith
I understand you don't want to or can't share this with family or friends - a lot of people including myself feel like this but you can talk about it with your doctor or Life Line - you have a choice of living with it but that's hard yards and it will take it longer to get past
Life changing events change lives - like this is your new normal - if you take the time to read a little of this forum you will see you are not alone and it's easier to share than walk through life fighting teas every day
01-07-2020 01:45 PM
Big hugs to you @CMarie
I have just gone through a major upheaval in my life too after resigning/being terminated from my job.... for over a week now all I have done is cry... almost constantly... and I can't stop.... I have panic attacks on and off all day.....I try to leave the house and go for a walk... but I burst into tears so I come home.... I talk to friends... and I cry.... I just can't function..... but I will get there.... eventually
I wish I had a magic wand to wave and make things better for all of us.... but alas... I don't
01-07-2020 02:47 PM
Hey @Lostandalone, that sounds really rough. and when going through something so major it's normal to experience feelings of grief and despair. I can hear that you're really trying, and it's good to take things day by day - it's also okay to write off some days too.
We are here for you
02-07-2020 09:07 AM
05-07-2020 09:44 AM
Thank you @CMarie
I am with you all the way
i am proud that I have managed to get out and walk the past few days.... don't know if it has really helped.. but I have done it... I hope you are managing to get out there... if you are scared...even though we don't physically know each other... just imagine I am holding your hand... put you head up high.., take a deep breath and off we go
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