26-06-2015 01:36 AM
I just wanted to comment on your discussion topic of this week. Unfortunately, I was unable to attend due to family commitments.
Of course carers deserve to be happy as does everyone else. I am a much more relaxed person when I take some time out for myself, whether it be a cup of coffee sitting in the sunshine, a chat with friends, or just taking a breather to recharge the batteries.
We all live in such a fast paced world that sometimes it's necessary to push the pause button for our own mental health. Granted, we as carers generally pay attention to the needs of others first but we need to draw a line and make ourselves a priority. In my case, if I don't get some ME time occasionally, I feel resentful and my bad/sad feelings are sensed by my family.
If I am in a happy state of mind, I am a much better person and in turn a much better carer to my family. Doing things that make carers happy is so important because their behaviour has such an impact on their loved one with mental issues.
Carers, take time out to look after yourselves and do things that make you happy so you can return to your family/loved ones with a smile on your face and a positive attitude, it really makes a difference.
Have a great weekend all and stay strong.
28-06-2015 04:11 PM
Yes of course .. too much denial causes stress and bad feelings. The world is not a level playing ground and for poorer people it can take a very long time (decades) to get things to a situation where it is possible for caresers to have things beyond the bare essentials. I am thinking of my mother and myself and there will be countless others in this situation. Then we just have to "tough is out". It does not mean we dont care.
30-06-2015 12:43 PM
30-06-2015 01:30 PM - edited 30-06-2015 01:40 PM
Hi @Happier, welcome to the conversation and to the Forum. I'm glad you found us.
I'm not sure that there's a good answer to your question. There are times in all of our lives when happiness seems an impossible goal. And being a parent to a child in such distress would definately be one of those.
The topic wasn't meant to make light of the heart-breaking situations that members find themselves in. It was more of a 'call to arms' to remind you to at least reflect on where you are at yourself. And to see if there is any wriggle room at all to find moments in your day for a slightly lighter spirit. Sometimes if we can put our worries and responsibilities aside (out of our direct focus at least) even for short periods we are stronger when we pick them back up.
Happier, can you tell us a little more about your situation? There are likely to be others here in the Forum who can relate to your experience and may be able to share how they balance their own needs with that of their loved one. Last week during Topic Tuesday @Viv, @Rjb, @Bearcub and @astrengthinever all shared parts of their journey in working towards their own happiness while caring for daughters with a MI. Perhaps they'll be by to join the conversation too.
30-06-2015 02:37 PM
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13-07-2015 04:35 PM
Hello, have you reached out for some support of ryour daughter and for yourself. Contact Craers Victoria or the carers in your state. all the best .
16-07-2015 04:20 PM
I thought I would add a link to this wonderful blog The happiness habit: 8 tips to boost your happiness
Are there any tips you would add to this list?
I'd been keen to hear how you're all doing with your happiness habits since Topic Tuesday!
And would there by any other tips people wish to share?
18-07-2015 09:24 AM
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