21-05-2019 09:43 PM
The conventional wisdom seems to be that stepping outside your comfort zone is good, worthwhile, admirable. Lately I feel like that idea makes a big assumption about being in a comfort zone to begin with. I rarely am. Some days getting outside my comfort zone means getting out the door, or even getting out of bed.
This morning I had a job interview, which really wreaked havoc with my mood. I'm now wired when I need to be winding down. Not to suggest that we can't take on challenges, learn and grow, but sometimes it comes at a cost that most people can't begin to fathom.
So I thought I'd start this thread to chat about how to find your comfort zone. It would make a nice change! I have an app that includes 'sleep stories' - calming voices reading stories - I think I've only made it through 1 of them, over many listens. So that works for me.
21-05-2019 09:51 PM
my feelings and thoughts exactly ... recently I challenged the concept of a comfort agreement ... the word gets me all triggered and confused.
although as I have grown and worked hard and my physical circumstances have changed ... I am "learning" about being comfortable ... and learning to be comfortable in my own skin ... somehow I think that is a problem for a lot of people with mh ... feeling alright in their own skin
21-05-2019 09:51 PM
Thanks so much for tagging me @frog
I am a bit fried tonight, but so will get back to you about this thread. Good job ! It’s a great topic area.
21-05-2019 10:03 PM
This is a great thread @frog, thanks for starting it. We can see how stepping outside your comfort zone means that you have to be comfortable to begin with, so we should celebrate those wins, even if it's simply getting out of bed in the morning (because let's be real, that can be a big struggle on some days).
Those sleep stories sound great, have you seen those cake and biscuit decorating videos? Those can be quite calming and comforting too.
21-05-2019 10:09 PM
I don't think I'm in a comfort zone @frog . I think I'm in a rut. And a lot of the time it's relatively comfortable to be in this rut. I understand what to expect in my rut.
By trying to get out of it or out of a comfort zone, it terrifies me. I don't know what to expect. I don't know if I could do it. Will I fail? Total fear and anxiety
21-05-2019 10:26 PM
Interesting thread. I guess for me i know that when something causes me nore anxiety than usual im entering out the comfort zone even if they are just thoughts. For example going to a family function- even the thought of it makes me anxious and uncomfortable because it takes me out of my own little comfort bubble.
21-05-2019 10:54 PM
Hey dear @frog reading through this thread I need to know where my boundaries lie in order to set up a comfort zone. Unfortunately I can’t do this tonight as medication is fast taking over.
I will however return to this thread in the morning.
21-05-2019 02:45 AM
@frog Hi frog great idea for a thread thanks for including lil peaxxx to find my comfort zone I listen to really fast music (like I am now lol). I am listening to 2 hearts beat as one by u2 but I like many different types of music it all depends upon my mood. Often however it is fast and I have no idea why fast rock etc would have that effect you think it would be totally the opposite effect .... I am a strange lil pea at times.
Also walking in the early mornings as you all know helps me find my comfort zone for the rest of the day. I love my early morning walks looking at nature, the sky with the stars and the moon, saying good morning to the odd passerby is extremely comforting to me. greenpeaxxxxx
21-05-2019 06:44 AM
21-05-2019 09:32 AM
@frogThis is a great idea for a discussion and sharing of ideas and information.
I don't like to get out of my comfort zone to often. I feel that at work I'm pushed and not given a great deal of choice. I particularly don't like giving presentations or being asked to run a meeting for a large group of participants. I often think that its not in my position description, I didn't sign up for this. Managers delegate stuff down the line that they should deal with. I often wonder what it is the managers actually do LOL.
My comfort zone is being in the country and at my farm. Being isolated and alone, enjoying nature. On the coast where I spent more than half the time its probably waking early and being phsyically active when I can. I usually only do this once or twice a week, but, sometimes I manage it a bit more frequently.
When I was younger I found the ocean very soothing, being alone in the waves was so invigorating, it felt like I had not a worry in the world. It felt so privilaged to be surrounded by such beauty and awe inspiring places. I never took for granted what I had and miss the beach lifestyle greatly LOL
You mentioned an app, I've found one called 'calm' where you can download sounds from nature of varying length. Its handy as you don't have to be online to play them. Music also helps me get into a comfort zone to. Lastly for Me, breathing and taking a deep breath helps Me centre and ground myself in the moment.
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