11-06-2020 08:42 PM - edited 11-06-2020 08:49 PM
11-06-2020 08:42 PM - edited 11-06-2020 08:49 PM
Moved...
11-06-2020 09:32 PM
11-06-2020 09:32 PM
Good evening fellow carers
So much to be grateful for in spite of our loved ones diagnoses. I have two fur babies snuggled up to me and I am so thankful that we were able to get them when we did.
12-06-2020 08:24 AM
12-06-2020 08:24 AM
@Faith-and-Hope, the blue Butterfly Pea flower tea looks spectacular! Butterfly Pea Cheesecake to g with it?
@Bezak482, I've got big plans for a shed-studio of my own one of these days. 🙂 Planning on it being "owner built", but not mudbrick. Council regs get more complicated as soon as you use any form of masonry.
12-06-2020 08:30 AM
12-06-2020 08:30 AM
Hi @Dove73, nice to meet you.
We've got an adult daughter with MI problems that scatter all over the DSM... including some psychotic-type symptoms, but not matching any psychotic disorders. We've found that her nastier thoughts tend to circle around those who care for her most. They haven't come out in the way that you wife's have, that would be so hard. 😞 But I wonder if sometimes if our MI beloveds zero in on those closest to them out of an unconscious fear of being betrayed or abandoned... and the fear blurs over into what seems to be reality for them. Dunno.
12-06-2020 09:31 AM
12-06-2020 09:31 AM
I have encountered a switch like that in my soon2bX hubby @Dove73 . That might not be very confidence-inspiring, but with my situation it appears to be personality based, and triggered a mid life crisis where spectrum of different disorders suddenly emerged - none of which he has acknowledged or sought support for. That part is now someone else's issue, because he discarded me and took up with someone else after a lengthy period of scheming and betrayal. It's all very different from what you are going through, but I think a lot of the feelings are the same. It's traumatic, and I feel for you so much ..... hang in there. Treatment and medication make so much difference, and you will have counselling and support around you.
One thing I can tell you is that self-care is probably your most important coping and recovery tool ..... caring for the carer is just as important as caring for the loved one.
Wow @Smc ... that cheesecake looks amazing ❣️ I hadn't been aware of this blue wonder-pea before finding this tea image .... it is appealing to me in a strange unicorn-world kinda way .... lol
I submitted another assignment last night ..... four more to go .... by Wednesday supposedly, but extensions are available to me if I need them.
👋💕 @Former-Member @Determined @Shaz51 .... anyone else around.
12-06-2020 10:00 AM
12-06-2020 10:00 AM
12-06-2020 12:59 PM
12-06-2020 12:59 PM
@Bezak482, same with our council. 10 square metres is the official cut-off size, so more convenient dimensions like 2.5x 4 are do-able. I've been saving up salvaged building materials. Planning on going with a mostly metal shell (fire, flood and pest resistant) on a masonry slab. Not poured slab- if I do a sturdy footing around the outside, I can infill with cement-mortared rubble etc. and save a lot on the cost/enviro impact of the concrete while still having a stable floor. And I might sneak in 30cms of masonry at the base of the walls.... the "no masonry" and under 10 sq. m rules are largely based on building safety. Such a small structure in lightweight materials is unlikely to end up catastrophically unsafe; a 2-3 metre high brick wall could be deadly if it's not built to code. But I figure 30 cms of masonry is low enough to be guaranteed safe, and would help make the walls above more structurally sound. 🙂
The first challenge is finding the "get up and go" to start on it. But we (Hubby and I) have managed to tackle some of our yard/house jobs that have been on the waiting list lately, which makes the prospect of shed building feel somewhat more attainable. 🙂
12-06-2020 01:02 PM
12-06-2020 01:02 PM
@Faith-and-Hope, I've got seeds for the Blue Butterfly Pea. Am hoping that my recently set up greenhouse might improve my chances of growing them. They really prefer somewhat warmer conditions than we get here. (I believe Sydney and northwards...) I wanna try Blue Butterfly Rice. 🙂
12-06-2020 01:03 PM
12-06-2020 01:03 PM
And all the best with the remaining assignments too. 🙂 End in sight!
12-06-2020 02:47 PM
12-06-2020 02:47 PM
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